Are you going through the divorce process as a father? Are you concerned that this will have a negative impact on your relationship with your child or children?
It's natural to believe that the court will favor your ex-wife, but this doesn't have to be the case. Instead, you can consider a variety of strategies for remaining a big part of your child's life.
For example, the creation of a shared parenting plan could be just what you need in order to feel better about the future.
In short, this arrangement gives both parents the ability to share decisions regarding a variety of issues associated with their child.
As long as both individuals agree that shared parenting is in the best interest of the child, this is something to consider. In most cases, the court will have no problem with approving such a plan.
Will shared parenting work?
As noted above, both parents must agree to a shared parenting agreement. Even so, this does not guarantee success. Instead, this will only work if both people are wiling to communicate in a clear, efficient, and effective manner. Along with this, they must be willing to make decisions that are in the best interest of the child. Decisions will be related to things such as:
- Financial responsibilities
- Parenting time
- Medical care
- Extracurricular activities
Even with a detailed shared parenting plan in place, there may still come a time when a dispute moves to the forefront. This is why your plan should have a system in place for resolving disputes. This way, if a compromise can't be met, both people will know how to resolve the dispute without delay.
The needs of your child may change over time, meaning that your parenting plan will need to do the same. For example, a young child and a teenager will not have the same needs. As a father, the way you spend time with your child now may not be the same as three years down the road.
As time goes by, both parents should be open to adjusting the agreement to meet the needs of the child.
Understanding child custody and parenting plans is easier said than done. However, once you learn more, you can decide if this is something that will suit you, your former wife, and most importantly, your child.